Healing the Heart

Sometimes, when I forget my purpose here on earth, I ask myself, "What am I supposed to be doing,” as if what I am "doing" or "being" is not enough. Then it occurs to me, once again, for the hundredth time, the most important purpose on earth. The answer is that it is not to see another client, or give another lecture, or write another blog. All of that counts of course, but there is more to my purpose here on earth. I am here to heal my heart and pass on this important information to other people so that they can choose to do the same. It takes focus and will-power to work on healing oneself; not get side-tracked or buy into other people's ideas of what you should or should not be doing. It is also challenging dealing with the endless chatter of the mind telling you that there is more to do, to accomplish-maybe then you will feel satisfied. In fact, the endless chatter of the mind distracts from the real reason for being here on earth and that is healing the heart.

It is challenging to heal the heart because there are days when energy is low, tiredness seeps in; health is not what it should be; loneliness and loss of motivation takes center stage. Or perhaps someone we love, or even a stranger or co-worker at work is unhappy, gets moody, and rejects us. We just don’t know what happened! The mental chatter and obsessions begin. “Why did they do that?” Then our focus is off of ourselves and our healing. We place our energy into another person hoping to change their behavior which obviously we can do nothing about. Healing our hearts begins with bringing the focus, the attention, back to ourselves. It begins with taking care of ourselves. Building a daily self-care program and creating good self-care habits is the start. For busy people, it is easier said than done, but it is a must! If we don’t feel physically well, then it is hard to be the loving, compassionate person we want to be. And it is difficult to heal the emotional wounds of the heart.

Begin your day with a closed eye process. Meditation is important to balancing the right and left sides of the brain. It eases the endless chatter in the mind. Do this for ten, to fifteen, to twenty minutes a day. At the end of the meditation, place your hand on your heart. Breathe in and out and mentally send healing to your heart. Tap lightly on the center of your chest. Breathe love and light into your heart center, your heart chakra. Tell yourself that you are a good person just as you are! Do this until you feel good, relaxed, and believe this affirmation to be true.

Then move on to a brisk walk, a swim, or some form of exercise that you like to do.

Reach out to a friend, a family member. Pick up the phone. Waiting for others to call can be a waste of time. It is always hard to make the first move and reach out to others. Research shows us that having friends in our lives brings quality to our day and we may even live longer!

So dear friends, wishing you a happy day filled with love, light, healing and many blessings,

Ruth Starseed
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A Radical Acceptance of Ourselves

The inner child, the emotional part of ourselves shows itself dreams; it also makes its presence known when we feel demanding, out of balance, angry, resentful, hateful and revengeful-all of the emotions that threaten to overwhelm us in life. So how do we reconcile the  “heavy emotions” with the desire to be positive, share uplifting thoughts and sentiments? The answer lies in accepting ourselves which is not easy to do; nor should a quick acceptance become the way we psychologically operate because we think we should. Doing so can increase anxiety and fear. It is best to get to know our feelings and acknowledge what we are going through; feel the feelings, however rough the roller coaster ride may be, and then move towards a radical acceptance of ourselves-a human being with faults, challenging emotions and struggles with difficult people in our lives. In all of these scenarios, the idea of acceptance is something to aim for, and it is always best not to minimize or suppress feelings but embrace our shortcomings. Get to know ourselves. One of the best ways to get to know the psychological part of ourselves is through analyzing dreams.

Here’s a dream I had a few nights ago.

After sitting in the sun all day giving hand/ arm massages to fifteen people I was exhausted. I did not even know how tired I was or how much stress I had accumulated from massaging so many people over a three hour period of time. I went to bed feeling more stressed than I realized. Towards morning I had this dream.

A very rapid flood of water gushed up the hill behind my house and raced towards the back glass sliding doors of the home. The rapidly rising water (emotions) threatened to flood the entire house and wash it away. To underscore how emotional and tired I felt, a trash can was on fire. Life was out of control.

The value of analyzing the dream is this: Now I deeply understood how tired, stressed, and emotional I felt. Massaging fifteen people for three hours while sitting in the sun was an emotional overload. In the future, in order to protect myself, I would have to set boundaries and limit the amount of time I would administer these labor intensive services.

It took several days to get back in balance, but after a few nights of sound sleep and daily meditations where I received extra rest. Plus walks in the park and an excellent swim at the pool, I was back to normal. I learned a lot of lessons from this experience.

1-Setting boundaries is important even in the work environment where it is harder to say no.

 2-When tired and out of balance, stress increases and perception is distorted.

 3-Deep rest is one of the most important gifts we can give ourselves.

When we are rested and back in balance, it is easier to accept ourselves and authentically affirm our good qualities.

Love, Light, Healing and Many Blessings,

Ruth Starseed
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Starseed Gratitude Initiative

When I was a child, much to the chagrin of my step-father who was a newcomer to our home, I wrote the names of people I loved and wanted blessings for on the wall next to my bed. There was a method to this madness; the many names of the people I loved would be remembered in my prayers before I went to sleep. “Now I lay me down to sleep. I pray the Lord my Soul to keep. If I should die before I wake, I pray the Lord my Soul to take. If I should live for other days, I pray the Lord to guide my ways.” Then I would say, God bless so and so. I would name the people on the list penciled on my wall next to my bed; adding other names, anyone I could think of. Standing over the bed with nothing to say, my step-father glared at the innocent seven year old staring lovingly at the names written on the wall.

When I was an adolescent, my step-father had plenty to say. He became a formidable presence; a gruff man too often unloving. However no one, not even he was ever able to squash my love for life, for God, and for all of the beauty and magic around me; for all of the blessings I have in my life. One of the greatest blessings I have is a need to remember to count my blessings and to be grateful for all that I have, every day.

Later in life, when I began teaching at the local college I shared the research of Dr. Emoto who wrote “The Hidden Messages of Water.” One of the bottom lines of his research is that the Universe responds positively to words and feelings of gratitude. Gratitude for ourselves and for others-even for the challenges that have the potential to bring us to new heights and wisdom. (This is difficult to see and believe when we are going through challenges). It is also very difficult to control the negative slide that our mind seems to want to go in during the day. Fatigue or hunger can bring our thoughts into a slide so much faster. For this reason, it is important to eat life-giving foods that enhance the cells in our mind and our body, and to get a good night’s rest. Think of bedtime as an actual activity. A time to prepare-wind down an hour ahead with a warm shower and lavender scents. No computers in bed! Then off to the dream world where we continue to learn. When we awaken refreshed it is so much easier to be grateful for all that we have.

On Monday, July 8th, 2103, is the Starseed Gratitude Initiative. Stop for a few moments every hour and count your blessings. Smile to others and be grateful. Compliment and tell people you love them. I always remind myself that no day is promised. Grab hold of today and be grateful for all of the things and people in your life, all that you have.

Love, Light, Healing, and Many blessings,

Ruth Starseed
Starseed Gratitude Initiative
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